Here’s something I’m completely fucking sick of. Every time something tragic happens and regular citizens step up to help, and the news interviews some of these people, there’s always one who says something self serving. That one person who has to somehow make it about them. And it’s almost always with the same phrase.
It has always been a problem for me, although I never knew it until this morning. Every time I would hear this certain phrase I would have a tick. A nervous twitch that would go off in my brain, and I didn’t know why. Well, now I know why.
This morning on the news they were talking about a missing college student. I just Googled “missing college student” to see if I could locate the story I’m talking about and Google blew up with JUST THIS STORY. Apparently she’s either the only missing college student right now or she’s the only one anybody gives a shit about.
I hope they find her and she’s alive and well. I really do. I hope nothing bad has happened to her. And I’m glad people are out there looking for her. Please don’t get me wrong, this isn’t about any of that. My problem is with one woman who was helping look for this girl, who was interviewed on the news this morning. She said that phrase, that quote, that gets under my fucking skin. I’m not saying this woman doesn’t care, obviously she does. She just said something that doesn’t matter, or at least it shouldn’t.
“Well, I’m a mother of two girls, so…”
So what? So if you weren’t a mother or you only had boys you wouldn’t be out there looking? You mean to tell me you’re only out there looking because of that, and not because you’re just a decent human being? So what’s everyone else’s stories? There was a young college boy there who was helping to look, is he the father of a little girl? Or does he have a third cousin, twice removed who just had a sex change and is now a woman, and he couldn’t imagine ever losing that cousin in some nefarious way?
This woman basically said, “Hey, look at me. I’m a mom and I have two daughters. I know EXACTLY what Hannah’s parents are going through. Except my girls are at home and safe. But if they ever go missing, the Graham’s have to help look cause now they owe me one.”
And this happens all the time. Flood victims being helped, someone is sure as shit going to say, “I have a house near water, so…” Car wreck? “I own a car, so…” Hang nail? “I have nails, so…”
Nobody gives a fuck about you or your shit. All that tells me is that you’re only helping because you can relate minimally. It sure would be nice to hear someone say, “I’m helping because I care.”